Monday, March 18, 2013

Last Gasp

Thank goodness, I'd taken photography classes before with someone fun and young who was willing to break it down in easy pieces!
If the guy at the camera store this weekend was my only experience, I'd never have picked up a camera again.
I understood about every 3rd word!

Oh well, managed to take these last Peep pictures before I went... when I still was under the impression that I knew how!







The book has been finalized - and printing is underway...

My sons will have it in their Easter baskets - along with a check...
the check hopefully making up for their mortification
that I posted many of these on Facebook.
According to one of them,
this series is the very reason why
adults kids don't 'befriend' their parents!

Poor guys, right?

Sunday, March 17, 2013

Obsession

The previous post was actually just to let you know that I know from obsession!
It seems to run in the family.
Or should I say sprint?

MY bouts with the condition don't last anywhere close to 4 years!
(Actually I have to admire Art Boys stamina).

I decorate seasonally, move furniture and tchotchkes constantly, get bored after the fourth or fifth date  and, hello, work in an ER. Clearly I have a need for change - and adrenalin rushes.

All of which is to say that my recent playing with Peeps, as much fun as it is, and I can't deny that it is - will be over soon. It's taking it's final gasp now... it won't last beyond Lent!






Come on... admit it.
It's been fun, right?

I'll bet you've even thought of some YOU could do!
What are waiting for? 
Grab your camera and get to it!

I'm finishing up the series tomorrow on my way to a photography class,
so you just have to endure a few more.

I'll give you a minute to grab a Kleenex
so you can wipe away the tears.

Saturday, March 16, 2013

Obsession - Part 1

Did I ever tell you that my oldest son, Art Boy, was obsessed once?

For the full four years he attended Art school as an undergraduate, he focused exclusively on Michael Jackson… drawings, paintings, sculptures… if there was a studio assignment, he found a way to incorporate the technique being tried into the subject he found most fascinating.
The choice made perfect sense to him…
The King of Pop was the first superstar he was aware of while growing up.
Thriller was his first record, played, for hours, on his Fischer Price record player.
His first name was the same as my sons and even our last names were similar.

Michael Jackson, as a child, looked very similar to my son’s oldest cousin, David, who Art Boy adored… so the seeds of fascination were planted long before college and his ‘art life’ began.

As more disturbing aspects of MJs ‘adult’ life emerged, Art Boy was still fascinated, although now it took on the quality of being akin to witnessing a car accident or passing the remnants of one on the side of the road – it’s awful and scary and horrible to see – yet it’s hard, if not impossible, to look away.

For someone who has devoted her professional life to working with the victims of child abuse, may I say his choice of subject matter was disconcerting, to say the least. 

By the time of graduation, Art Boys vision statement about his work included the spiritual musing that Michael Jackson’s life epitomized the danger inherent in becoming your own God Michael Jackson had been created as a black male – yet he, and his ‘team of sycophants’, spent much of his life, energies and resources, turning him into a white woman. Of course there’s an emotional price to be paid, not to mention gender confusion, in denying the basic reality of who you are. (His reflections were far more eloquently expressed than this synopsis, but that was the gist.)

My favorite works from the ‘Michael Jackson period’ were the 5 paintings of “Harlequin romance book covers” with Michael Jackson as the male hero.
They were huge paintings (by my ‘cottage’ standards); easily 4feetx8feet. My boy has never done anything small way in his whole life!

I was only able to find three pictures from the series; the other two – the Southwestern and the mountain motifs - must be hidden in one of the other 15 albums on the closet shelf!

This one, my personal favorite, hung for years in my bedroom on the only wall big enough to accommodate it – and it was impossible to miss!
One night, as I was reading in bed, GI Joe and a high school friend came into the room to tell me about a change of plans for the night. As they were leaving the room, I heard his friend say, “I didn’t know your mom was dating a black guy!”

True story – and one that always makes me smile… almost as much as I question the poor boys eyesight!

I only WISH I’d looked like this chick!

Thursday, March 14, 2013

The list was blessedly short this morning.

On the agenda for a city wide review of children who have died in the past month …

4 babies with lives cut short before they reached 3 mos – all from co-sleeping with adults who loved them – all totally preventable deaths.

2 deaths from gunshot wounds – adolescent males making lousy life choices and paying the ultimate price.

1 pre-adolescent suicide – a death which left parents, friends and an entire school community wondering what could have prompted a beautiful, outwardly successful young girl to come home early from school and hang herself from her closet rod, using her favorite scarf.

I left the meeting, as I usually do, aware of the fragility and vulnerability of every person in the room, on the street, in the office, in the hospital etc… and saddened beyond telling about our inability to be there in healthy ways for each other; to make a difference; to create a better way of being.

I'm not surprised that I'm choosing to focus my attention tonight on my vacation next month – a trip away to Iona, a remote island off the coast of Scotland.

Tonight, there's no such thing as too remote; it can’t be secluded enough.

Maybe I won’t come back.

Perhaps I’ll stay in a former hermit’s cell and lose my days in pray and contemplation of natural beauty, removed from the ugliness of the world humans have created; allowing someone else to absorb the emotional body blows that come with being on the frontline.

Yeah, that sounds about right.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Told you there'd be more!

Is this what they mean by 'March Madness'?

I think I need an intervention...









Monday, March 11, 2013

All-Surrounding Grace

As swimmers dare to lie face to the sky 
and water bears them, 
as hawks rest upon air 
and air sustains them,
so would I learn to attain
free fall, 
and float into the Creator Spirit's
deep embrace,
knowing no effort 
earns that 
all-surrounding 
grace.

Denise Levertov

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Saturday, March 9, 2013

DNR

I kept telling myself that, at my age, I need to get that tattooed somewhere on my chest so it can’t be missed.

My problems are a) with my boobs rapidly descending to my ankles, it’s almost guaranteed to look like the Chinese hieroglyphic for Moo Shu Pork  and b) I have this whole aversion to needlessly  poking needles into my skin and injecting dye into the holes!
Other than that  I’d get right on it!

A recent news item that stirred up huge tempests in several teacups was about the nurse at an independent living center who dialed 911 to report a resident ‘down’ – and then refused to perform CPR on her while waiting for EMS to respond.

From the public outcry about her actions – or lack therof – you’d think she’d choked her, placed her in a garbage bag and left her in a landfill.

As I listened to the talking heads debate what happened and how reprehensible it was, it occurred to me that NONE of these commentators must ever have been in the position of making that decision for an elderly parent, never have faced end of life issues for themselves and are therefore still suffering from our cultures misguided belief that simply because we can do something, we should do it.

Seems simple - CPR (cardiopulmonary resuscitation) is a means of trying to restore circulation and breathing to a person who has no pulse or is not breathing.

Portrayals of it in movies and on TV shows would have you believe that it is a highly effective treatment for just about anyone who has collapsed.
Come on now… do you believe everything else you see on TV? It's not called 'the boob tube' for nothing!

The success of CPR is based on many things, including the cause of the respiratory arrest, the underlying health of the victim, the time elapsed between the arrest and CPR being started and the technique used by the person performing CPR.

A recent study found that on TV shows, CPR successfully revived the victim 75% of the time – that is more than double the most conservative real-life estimates.

Most victims on TV shows were young and required CPR following trauma or a near drowning – conditions with the highest success rates.
Also, on TV shows, victims either die – or have a complete recovery.
Months of rehab, markedly impaired quality of life post CPR and lifelong disabilities just aren’t sexy sitcom fodder.

The reality is there’s less than a 5% success rate of CPR being effective for elderly victims with multiple medical problems.

I’m willing to believe the staff at the living center knew their patient, knew her medical conditions, what her wishes were and those of her family and had a better idea of how long she’d been ‘down’ than the police dispatcher.

The dispatchers heartfelt and I’m sure very genuine lament “This woman will die if we don’t get this started, do you understand?” needs to call us, as a society, to a deeper reality that we’re ALL  going to die – and that CPR – or any medical intervention for that matter, may not be either wanted or warranted.

I think the only thing that needs to be reviewed by this facility is their policy of calling 911 in the first place.

Note to self – or my children making the tough choice of where to ‘put’ me - check the fine print and make sure that’s NOT in the rulebook of the home you pick!

Or  sedate me and take me to the tattoo parlor first!

Friday, March 8, 2013

The Peeps Show

Did you know there are websites devoted exclusively to dioramas created with Peeps?
Don't worry this won't become one of them.
I don't have the talent or patience to set up whole shadowboxes with miniature props and costumes.

They DO, however, lend themselves to certain situations - and they make near perfect models - what with their inability to make any protests or move around as you fiddle with camera settings.

Playing with them is also the perfect antidote to hours spent in the afternoon helping police tell a 15 yr old that the man who shot her succeeded in killing her mother but, luckily, was killed himself before killing her 2yr old siblings, as he had threatened.

No doubt about it - - THIS was infinitely more fun!







OK... no dioramas...

but I also have no doubt, there'll be more - 
and they just may all find themselves in a book 
that certain family members 
will see in their Easter baskets!

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Looking for love in ALL the wrong places!

It’s a good thing I get my news from several sources or I might have missed this life altering item from CNN Money.

I mean really, a girl could literally spend all day searching and reading the world wide webs in an attempt to keep up with all the salient news items of the day – you know, issues like did Kate really slip up while working the line and say she was having a Princess? Will that pesky divorce be granted for Kim before inducing so much stress in her life that she delivers Kimyes baby too soon? Has someone already mistaken Dennis Rodman for a representative of the State Department and started negotiating some treaty with him? Has the NRA successfully defined themselves as a” well regulated militia” as required by the Second Amendment? How did admitted killer Jodi Arias go from looking like a stripper- intimately familiar with poles- 
to looking dowdier than a stereotypical Marian the librarian?
But I digress.

I’m serious; this article could be a game changer for more than just me.
You see it appears that romance isn’t dead; it’s just hiding at Wal-Mart!

A study of missed connection posts on Craigslist found that Wal-Mart was the most popular place for people to find love at first sight, according to Psychology Today magazine.

More people thought they saw their future spouses at a Wal-Mart than anywhere else in 15 states. I'll let that sink in a moment ...


And, while the study didn’t elaborate, I think we can all guess what states made the cut for the top slots of those 15 – Mississippi, Tennessee, Georgia, Alabama, Arkansas, Missouri, Florida, Louisiana, West Virginia… oh, don’t get all uppity, you know you were thinking the same thing!

BTW - why is THAT any more slanderously stereotypical than saying, as the study did, that in New York, the most frequently cited spot was the subway or that, in California, the most popular was the gym chain 24 Hour Fitness.

 Here’s the bad news –

as if the People of Wal-Mart being someone’s idea of love at first sight hasn’t already made you toss your toast – age IS a factor.

The most common place for missed connections for 20 something’s was in an ice cream store.
At 30, it was a bar and, for people over 40, it was a strip club or an adult bookstore!

WTH??
Adult bookstores? Strip clubs?
That’s not a missed connection for love… that’s a missed opportunity to be someone’s next appointment and the next person on the list to be contacted by the Health Department!

You’ll also notice that people in my age bracket weren’t even included in the study!

Don’t know about anyone else but you’ll find me with the 20 something’s at the frozen yogurt store (ice cream stores are SO 2010) – and the only thing I’ll be looking for are the sprinkles!

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Fading beauty

I'm certainly not the only one 
who finds beauty 
even in decay,
right?

Right?

Beautiful things grow to a certain height 

and then they fail and fade off, 

breathing out memories as they decay". 


Tuesday, March 5, 2013

God loves all his Peeps -

NO exceptions!

ps: if the candy company was smart
they'd be marketing this option!